And if I could say ……..

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Last weekend, my staff were treated to a few hours’ treatment at a local health spa. It was something that we had not done before, something that we probably could not afford either as a group, but we were given this wonderful opportunity to take part in this full body retreat and enjoy some personal ‘R and R.’ Prior to this event, in the few days before, everyone was chatting about how much they were looking forward to this day, to this ‘indulgence’. The day was of course a truly special one, and all staff were most appreciative of the time given for them in those individual few hours, in return for the past few years (pre and post covid), given to others in their role at work.

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Did you know that the word thank comes from the Latin “tongere?” It very loosely means to acknowledge what somebody has done for you – hence where we get the term “thank you” from.

Many social commentators bemoan how rude people are in modern life. And in particular they despair about how humans neglect to be grateful. While our parents or whoever bought us up, may have impressed on us to have good manners and say please and thank you, this was for a very good reason because nothing makes a person feel better than an earnest thank you. We say thank you for gifts, thank you for special favours, and thank you for assistance in times of need. Both Religious and Non-Religious people say Thank you to God for events that have happened. But it is not only the big things where a thank you matters. It is also in the small everyday things.

Think about those small times where we say a simple thank you. Like as we are handed our change in the store, or when someone holds the door for us, someone who lets us go through that door first, or to the ticket person who gives you your bus ticket. What about that thank you to the person who simply passes you the salt or pepper at dinner, or to your partner at the end of the day for the lovely time you have had together. It’s a phrase that is pretty much ubiquitous. But one that is never unwelcome and can mean so much because saying thank you is an everyday etiquette and a simply courtesy that takes just a moment. It costs nothing, not even effort. But it is also one of the most important ways in which we interact with others, both those closest to us and those with whom we have contact for the briefest of times. Taking time to think about the smaller things in life and thank the people around us for what they do can make a tremendous impact on not just our own lives, but the lives of everyone around us. For me, on a personal note, I always ensure that with each of my staff members at the end of the day I say thank you for their time and energy given. It is not a habit- but just an expression of how I truly feel.  I am thankful for what they have done that day to enable efficiency of the task at hand.

But just why is it that saying thank you is so very important?

Why do we feel so hurt and let down when someone doesn’t thank us?

Isn’t it just an empty ritual? A meaningless reflex??

Stop and think, how many problems or resentments stem from someone thinking that people take them for granted? Whether at work, with friends, or among family, not saying thank you often enough can poison the well of good relations faster than anything. The fact is that ‘thank you’ has something truly magical about it. Yes, it is just two words, but they definitely act as shorthand for so much more.  ‘Thank you’ shows our appreciation and conveys our gratitude. But more than that, it is a sign of respect to the person who has helped you (or given you something). It is an indication you do not take them for granted, and an acknowledgement that they do matter.

At the end of our few hours together at this spa retreat, each member of staff expressed their own personal thank you to me. Yes, sourcing the funding and the other organisational aspects of this time for my staff was my responsibility and my role and I too was part of this pampering, and I truly enjoyed my own cossetted time. However, as I said to my husband later that night, I could honestly say, even if I was not an integral part of the day, and only sat outside to read a book and wait for them all to be indulged, I would have been happy. Why? Because I gained more pleasure and gratification seeing and feeling each person’s gratefulness, their joy, their own appreciation for what had happened. Receiving each staff members individual thank you, gave me more happiness than the spa treatment I actually received. I guess I could genuinely say I glowed more from those encounters than the beauty products I absorbed!

We do not always have huge events in our life that we have to be thankful about. Neither do we need to have someone say thank you to us. Rather it is the daily small aspects of our lives, the simple things we are most appreciative of and by saying these two simple words to another person, is a most powerful and essential social exchange. It benefits both the giver and receiver, fosters positive relationships, and contributes to so much more. It’s a small shift in perspective that can make a significant difference in yours and others overall well-being and the way you interact with the world around you.

There is a song by Secret Garden called ‘Thank you”. It reflects so many of my thoughts – in particular about what I am blogging about today. Thank you for the Mondays, Saturdays and Sundays, Everyday, the whole year through; Thank you for the fun days, All those number-one days, Battles-to-be-won days, too; I just want to say it, Thank you for each day with… you.

So, to end this blog, reflect on where you have recently said thank you to another as a common courtesy? Or where you have felt genuinely thank you to someone for something they did, or for just being there for you. Both are just as important.

Thank you for doing that!

 And…..

Thankyou for reading and sharing my blog- that truly means a lot!

“I need a hug”

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I need a hug!

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A few weeks ago, my daughter and granddaughter visited me at my house. It was a special visit as due to both of our overwhelming weekend commitments and working weeks etc; it had been quite a while since they have been here in my house in person. Oh yes, we have been together many, many, many times in other places and venues but not at our home. So certainly, after a delightful few days visit, they had to return to the Gold Coast. Prior to leaving, her car was parked in the main street of my hometown and the normal process and customary way of saying goodbye from Grammy to granddaughter began. I reached out my arms to embrace my granddaughter in my Grammy type of hug and said to her …” I need a hug”. To my surprise, a person stopped in front of me and said “Ok” …and turned towards me…. put their arms out for a hug, quite willingly prepared to give me one!

Of course, that was a humorous moment and we all laughed at the antics…. but it was also at the same time a very special thought provoking moment. Why?

Because I needed a hug.

And this stranger was prepared to give it to me.

That same day I was reading on Face book about a young woman in our local community who wished to say thank you to a woman -another stranger -who gave her a hug. This woman was crying in her car, in a supermarket car park “sobbing her heart out” (her words) and this unknown female came up to the car- knocked on the windscreen of the crying lady and asked ‘would she like a hug’- to which the obvious thing happened. Yes! The person who needed the hug ,on Facebook wrote that she wanted to say thank you to this stranger for doing that spontaneous gesture as “her own mother was on the other side of the world, and she felt so alone”.

I was quite touched by all of this and thought- what is it about a hug? What makes it special? What makes it necessary? Why don’t we do more of it? 

Pre Covid, we were all willing to hug each other. It was a normal thing to do. In our local community it was quite common to see males, females, whatever sex, hugging each other in the middle of the street. A common occurrence, a genuine embrace for their family or their friend. Pre Covid, in my own workplace, it was the norm to give my staff (medical receptionists- (a tough job believe me) , a hug at the end of their shift ,as they left for the day,  to simply say I appreciate what you did and thank you for the work performed. It was not forced but rather something I did without thinking. Their response was to hug me back. When Covid hit, naturally due to the transmission of the virus, it all stopped. During the coronavirus pandemic, hugs became a thing of the past. The isolation and lack of human connection was what made quarantining so difficult because craving a hug was what many of us needed. In fact, of all the things you may have craved during this difficult time, I know a hug was on top of my human contact list. And it did not, could not happen.

In today’s Post Covid environment, personally, I do not think hugs has taken off as much as before. Prior, we hugged each other without reservation or judgment. When Covid hit- precautions were taken, no contact at all…and in todays post situation, as much as I have attempted a few hugs at times, we are still a little reserved. Understandably, some of my staff are still a little stiff and resistant. (Although, interestingly one of our doctors (apart from my husband) is quite free and spontaneous with their hugs to me and that is such a nice feel.) As hugging is such a personal experience and as confidence in the human touch restores once again, I can only hope that spontaneous hug between each other without thinking will return once again!

Why do we need hugs?

Most human communication occurs verbally or through facial expressions. But touch such as hugging is a very important way that people can send messages to one another. Scientists say that giving another person support through touch can reduce the stress of the person being comforted. The health benefits of giving and receiving hugs are quite impressive. To quote one psychologist “Hugs have a therapeutic effect on people.” Medically speaking, Oxytocin, a chemical in our bodies is associated with happiness and less stress. Scientists sometimes call it the “cuddle hormone.” This is because its levels rise when we hug, touch, or sit close to someone else. That physical touch involved in a hug stimulates that release of endorphins and oxytocin, which are natural mood enhancers and can reduce levels of stress hormones such as cortisol. Research has shown that hugs can cause a decrease in the release of cortisol, to decrease your blood pressure and heart rate in worrying, hectic or traumatic situations. In moments of anxiety or tension, a comforting hug from another person can definitely have a calming effect on both the one receiving and the person giving. So, it turns out that hugging is medically proven to make us healthier and happier.

Of course, being mindful and considerate and respectful of others’ boundaries and preferences, the most obvious reason for a hug would be that regular displays of physical affection, such as hugging, strengthens the bond and unity between friends, family members, or romantic partners.

In a romantic relationship you hug, you hold hands, and genuinely enjoy having that human touch. I know I do!  I have to admit that I truly enjoy a random display of affection of a hug in the workplace (my partner and I work together) and that continues to build that trust and a sense of security in my own relationship, not to mention, topping my hug-a-metre up on a daily basis! However, generally speaking hugging, is universally comforting and a tangible way, to express affection, love, and care for another person. Just like the bond between my granddaughter (and all my grandchildren) and myself, we hug others when we’re excited, happy, sad, or simply trying to comfort. Think about your own experiences. Can you remember an instance when a friend or family member had dealt with something painful or unpleasant in their lives? What did you do- you gave them a hug. Why did you do it? Because it communicated to them that you were there and willing to offer your support. It allowed you to show that you valued and appreciated them. When you hug another person, it demonstrates in a nonverbal way that they are valued and cared for by you.

When you are having a bad day and various aspects have happened around you, you can feel emotionally isolated and lonely. You don’t even need to say to another what is wrong. Simply receiving a hug from someone else at that moment of time can help alleviate yours (or their) feelings of loneliness, unhappiness, and isolation. It provides a regain of that sense of belonging and that reassurance of  ‘someone cares’. Just like that woman in the car, it reduced her feeling of loneliness. It restored her faith in human life once again. Someone cared enough to stop and knock on the windscreen to ask would she like a hug! Likewise, a hug given to another in an excited happy positive situation is also expressive as that hug given helps to improve self-esteem, because it contributes  to their sense of self-worth and validation. That “hey, you did good!”.

So, I will leave you with this contemplation…..

When did you last receive a hug?

When did you last give a hug?

Would you be like stranger on the street who was willing to give me a hug because I asked for one…?

Would you be like that woman hugging another because she needed one?

I cannot answer that for you as we are all different people, with different communication tendencies, but what I can say is that I do hope that you hug someone in your home or your workplace in the next few days, because you feel it is important to do so.  Because you simply value the worth of your hug!

And on that thought, right now I am going  to give my husband a hug!

Enjoy my poem!

“In warm embrace, two souls connect, A tender touch, hearts intersect. A hug, a gift, both strong and kind, A language spoken, love defined.

From giver’s arms to receiver’s hold, A bridge of comfort, love untold. With open hearts and arms spread wide, The gift of hugs, a love inside.

In times of joy, a hug’s delight, In sorrow’s grip, a soothing light. A simple act, yet deep and true, A hug conveys, “I’m here for you.”

The power of a hug, profound, It heals the spirit, so astound.  In every hug, there lies a chance, To share affection’s sweet romance.

So let us give and let us take, A hug, a bond, a love to make. In giving hugs, we find our worth, A treasure shared, upon this Earth.”

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And We Passed!!!!!!!!

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OIPSaturday morning looms and for most people (unless you work today) it is time to slow down and take the attitude of “I do not have to do anything about work today”.

For me today that is so true.  I know we all have busy weeks but this week, in fact for many, many, many weeks I have been so busy and flat out and today I am exhausted! Why today in particular?  Because last Wednesday, we have had accreditation for the Medical Practice at which I am employed. For those of you who do not know what this means, let me explain.

Accreditation in general terms for any medical practice plays a vital role in ensuring quality, safety, and credibility in healthcare. It benefits patients, healthcare providers, and the healthcare system by promoting continuous improvement, establishing trust, and most importantly, meeting regulatory requirements that enable the practice to continue in its care. It happens every three years in Australia. It ensures that the medical facility meets specific criteria related to patient safety, infection control, clinical protocols, and other aspects of healthcare delivery. For our General Practice, by achieving accreditation, we can demonstrate compliance with these healthcare regulations to ensure the necessary legal and ethical obligations are being met.  

Do you know, that under the Royal Australian College of General Practitioners (RACGP -regulatory body,) there are 152 standards of the 5th edition we must address. No? Well, now you do know. There are 152 standards which we must address practically in our day-to-day routines as doctors and administration.

Do you know, preparing for accreditation, until I told them, not even my doctors knew there were this many. I guess, realistically, it is not an essential fact to know and I am not even sure my administrative team knew either until I actually informed them. But irrespective of the number of standards to meet, undertaking these benchmarks, encourages and establishes in the general public eyes, a level of trust and credibility in our healthcare facility. Meeting these standards, enhances professional development for both clinical and administrative staff, allowing us to be continuously updated on advancements in medical knowledge, clinical protocols, and administrative inclusions. It essentially means that our patients, healthcare providers, and stakeholders can have confidence that we do adhere to recognized standards that demonstrates our commitment in providing safe and high-quality care for all our patients.

In a nutshell, it is a mammoth task! One that most public do not know about or understand or are aware of what and why we do this.

For me personally for the past 18 months to two years, it has involved developing and writing and educating staff in any new aspects of the standards, encouraging etiquettes, procedures, and the perpetual regulating body’s new or refined guidelines to be introduced, developed, or improved, creating Practice Specific manuals- (how we meet these standards at our practice), refining existing policies and procedures, examining, and improving (where needed,) the clinical processes and protocols, working importantly as a team practically to achieve all of these values and guidelines. All these documents are submitted to our formal accreditation body, three months before the actual visit on the day and then continuing to encourage staff to implement and maintain what our written policies state. I guess the term ‘a living document”- explains that phrase perfectly in that any of our policies or procedures in writing is what we actually do in person. Within the practice personally.

All of us.

At the same time, I am still performing my role in day to day duties and responsibilities as  Practice Manager of a busy small Medical Practice.

No, I am not putting myself on a pedestal.

I could not do any of this without my team. It is definitely a whole team endeavour, and as a team, we have all contributed along the way in both administrative and clinical areas. But through functioning professionally, with my entire team,  with my doctor /owner husband both personally and professionally ( after all it is his practice,) being the one  leading this process has been an enormous task! I guess I am just trying to explain what and how much time, pressure and stress has been devoted to this objective. But most general practices all do it.

And we did it!

On the visitation inspection day, our two surveyors (as they are called,) after discussion/questioning with the owner GP, (my husband) physical workplace inspections and many hours of questioning me (interrogating as I call it) on almost every standard, once again, we achieved Accreditation status.

Yes, we passed!

And, not only did we pass but passed with ‘excellent high standards’(their words).

Am I thrilled?

Of course! I am over the moon.  I am ecstatic! I am so proud of our team and our practice! And interestingly I also have a mix of other emotions, which includes that sense of great accomplishment, relief, but also that weird, unusual feeling of emptiness or flatness knowing it is all over. Oh, but I know that will not last very long as my work and my life begin both professionally and personally! again this new week coming!

The funniest part is that, do you know though…that it will all start again! Working with the current standards, introducing to staff the new sixth edition standards that will happen very soon and the beginning of preparing for the accreditation visit once more,  in three years time!

And yes…. I will more than likely do it all over again!

Mad aren’t I!

 

 

 

 

 

“No. She Is Not Just a Cat”

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“They leave our homes but never our hearts”

‘Oh, it is only a Cat”.little cat

How hard and callous is that sentence. Something that should never be stated!

Losing a cat or a dog is a life-changing event, one that is just as hard as the loss of a human companion. They are a part of your family and importantly, the pain associated with their demise is devastating.

Two years ago, I lost my beautiful Tabby cat ‘Big Cat’ and this week- on Monday 21st May, I lost his sister “Little cat”. Shadow.

She was 18 years old.

For 18 years she was part of my family.

After the immense loss and pain of losing Big Cat, (Tipsy), at the age of 16, Little Cat became my companion and a constant presence and truly came into her own being when my first cat passed away. Back then she (Shadow) was somewhat reserved and for many years cuddly, but it was a ‘you can pat me when I say so…. ok I have had enough now…”, how we all used to laugh at that. However, on her own, these past two years, she became so loving, so vocal talking to me all the time, particularly when there was food or milk involved, but so huggable and just wanted to be in your arms or on your lap or upright on your chest snuggled into you. (She used to also climb on my husband’s lap and settle which is surprising as he is not really a cat lover!) Meowing, whenever her actual owner, my daughter Tanya, came online and hearing her voice, jumping on my lap to chat with her mistress in huge miaows, answering her inquiries!

Even though, we both know it was the right decision for Little Cat, it does not make it any easier to accept. Such a hard one to make, even though you know it is “right.” I truly did not think I would be this upset after losing my first cat, but I am. Perhaps even more so.

Again, I have had to ask myself the same question, why my grief is so huge. And again, to answer that same question, just like Big Cats death was connected to the passing of my first husband, the losing of Little Cat, certainly finalises the link in the chain to him. When my first husband died 18 years ago, at such a young age to malignant melanoma, both cats filled that gap for me. When my first cat passed away, two years ago, in my heartbreak then, I knew I still had Little Cat  to unconditionally love me, to look up at me in her shadowed etched face with those huge green eyes, to be beside me, not asking questions, just seeing me, purring beside me, climbing in, and nestling beside me and on top of me, on the lounge, on the bed or wherever. She didn’t mind, as long as she was warm and near me. Someone there beside me every day. No other reason. Sitting beside me when I played the piano, making the most discordant sounds, not sure whether she was singing along, or complaining. I guess now I will never know.

Now she has gone.

How she has left such a significant void in my life.

I truly feel like my heart is breaking.

I am sure it is!

Truth beknown, she was my daughter’s cat but due to external circumstances that Little Cat could not live with Tanya, she stayed with me and for the past 14 years of her 18 years, she has been my cat.  Tanya and I always used to laughingly argue….’mine. no mine’…but she was ‘mine’.

When Big Cat died, I could not stay to see his end, but I patted him and talked to him and seeing him content, hearing him purring strongly, I then left him with Lauren our vet who continued to pat him as I left her surgery in tears. I could not stay. I needed to remember him as he was purring and relaxed, knowing he was loved. This time it was different in that I was with my daughter as we made the decision together to ease her pain. It was definitely much harder!  Calling Tanya home to say goodbye, sobbing with the thought of knowing what we had to do, sobbing as we held her for the last time in my house, cuddling her, hearing her purr as we drove to Lauren the Vet again. Tanya holding onto the cat in her arms and not wishing to let go, me holding both Tanya and the cat, wanting to turn back time, and sobbing even more intensely as she took her last two breaths in Tanya’s/our arms -so calm so peaceful- but both of us sobbing so painfully, our hearts now breaking, splitting in a heart wrenching snap, knowing she had now left us.

I really cannot believe how my heart is breaking, how I have simply sobbed in my husband’s arms over a cat and little things she used to do and not seeing her.  I have been to work this week but not much done. My head is simply not there, and I cannot communicate normally with people. My staff are so great and all I do is start to cry- trying to keep it together. But my pain in my heart is strong and I have done nothing but sob since she has gone.

My staff member made me laugh when she herself, close to tears at my loss, fully understanding my grief having her own cat, told me a story of a friend (or a relative) that when my staff member had concerns re her own cat, would reply” Oh it’s just a cat”. One day in reply to this friend/relative, after having had enough of the callousness, when this person was upset about her child, my staff member turned to her and said, “oh it’s just a child” and walked away. In my tears, how I laughed. But it truly brings home the fact that the love you have for your family member and the heartbreak you feel is still the same – whether human or feline!

Just like losing a human member of your family, it is just as hard facing and working through those small simply triggers of memories, those small little things that start the tears. Like coming out of the shower and not having her there meowing, something she did every day, like not having her jump up on the bed every night to settle beside me, like not hearing her caterwauling when she could not find me. Knowing that we should remove the cattery this weekend…. something both cats used frequently when they could. Not seeing her sit in the sun on top of the air conditioner in that cattery – where she loved to be. Not seeing that structure there, something that has sat in place for 14 years when we moved here, will instil even further that she has truly gone. I still have not sat down at the piano to play as I truly cannot cope with that grief just yet because I know she will not jump beside me and sing. I am not sure when I will do that as right now my heart is breaking.

I also know that time helps you to move on but right now it might take a little more time as mine is broken, shattered, crushed and the pain is so intense. My tears are flowing, and just like Big Cat, the most awful and horrible aspect of walking in my back door every day in coming home is not seeing Little Cat there. Neither of them to ever talk to me in their own way. Knowing they will never be there again.

Big Cat is gone. Little Cat is now gone.

And though at times she was a pain in the proverbial, she bought me so much joy , so much happiness, so much love.

No, She is not just  a cat .

She was my cat .

She held such a huge place in my life, in my heart.

She always will.

What do you hear?

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anzacToday is Anzac Day. Traditionally we rise early to attend the remembrance ceremony of this special day along with many 100’s at our own small town and many 1000’s of others around Australia. It is a day of special memories for so many people and for creating new memories of understanding for the younger generation coming through.

I have attended this celebration all my adult life. To join with the returned service men and women, their generations of families and the usually large congregation of locals all joining in to pay their respects was always, and remains, special.

I even had the privilege to sing at the dawn service at our local town for 20 successive years. To stand and lead the singing at 4:30am, then again at 11am, to embrace vocally the soft music and words of ‘Abide With Me,’ and to finish each service with a rounding rendition of ‘Advance Australia Fair’ are memories I will always cherish. And for all those 20years, there was the immense problem of singing in front of a huge crowd at 4:30am without a proper vocal warmup! You try it!  But today, I was simply part of the crowd, and I had the privilege of hearing the younger generation from the primary (elementary) school choirs lead the singing. How even more special!

Music plays a substantial role in culture, it provides entertainment, it gives people an outlet to be creative, it helps us understand beauty, it promotes a sense of cohesiveness and community and has a value on its own. For me, music speaks when words can fail. It is a universal gift and its power to connect people is without question. It is an art form with human interaction at its centre.

Today at our Anzac service, we were reminded of the impact of music in/on the war. Interestingly, in biblical terms, ever since ‘Joshua fit the Battle of Jericho’, music has served as both a psychological weapon and a way to communicate in battle. Joshua banged his drums and blew the trumpets to make the walks of Jericho fall!  At this dawn service, we were reminded that music has always played a significant role in war; from the use of bugles and snare drums as forms of communication, to the escapism of writing and performing melodies to lift the morale and distract the soldiers from the cacophony of war to choirs that were formed in Prisoner of War camps.

I remember seeing the Movie, ‘Paradise Road’, so many years ago, of this true story regarding somewhere in Sumatra in the South Pacific, in a World War II camp, prisoners of war from several countries were held by the Japanese. The story unfolds about a female Presbyterian missionary from England who formed a choir in the prisoner of war ‘Women’s Barracks Camp in Palembang’. The missionary transcribed and arranged from memory music scores of many of the great musical works of Western art. She wrote them in pencil on fragile paper then trained fellow women prisoners to sing and perform these works acappella under extreme demoralizing conditions. Making music was a remarkable survival mechanism! If you have not seen this movie, I suggest you do! A most powerful story epitomising the positive impact of music in the war.

Music in the war also had a major role as a morale booster when played or sung communally. Songs were written and sung as a form of lifting morale for those going off to war or for those left behind. Think about the Vera Lyn recording, “We’ll meet again”, or “It’s a long way to Tipperary”. I know these songs but as I was listening, my mind went to our recent times in Quebec City, Canada, where we learnt about how the drums and the bugler had such an impact on what soldiers needed to do. There were no spoken words, just the sounds of the melodical music being played, or the dialogue of the beat of the drum. It was simply a conversation heard. Music is a powerful means of communication. where people can share intentions, emotions, and meanings. Music in its form can always be understood.

So, after our special Anzac Day ceremony when we were reminded of the powerful role of music in wartime, we returned home and watched an old Australian movie: ‘The Man from Snowy River.’ The storyline was effective, the scenery was breathtaking, the acting was great for a 1982 film, (of course Tom Burlinson as the lead role was simply gorgeous) but it was not all those characteristics that was captivating to me. It was the Music. To hear ‘Jessica’s theme’ played and interwoven into the main mountain musical theme…. you knew exactly what that distinct musical conversation was telling you. As the main character ‘Jim’ rode over the side of the mountain on his beautiful horse, you were presented with a scene so powerfully visual and breathtaking filled with mesmerizing camera work and horsemanship. But to me, as much as this scene was spellbinding, it was the musical theme that kept me enthralled. The music and its recurrent theme talked to me, informing me of the narrative of that solo mountain man and the mountain he conquered. Through the music, you could hear and feel the horse’s heartbeat, you could touch the emotion conveyed as this solo horseman and the pounding horses he was chasing, rode. I know you probably think ‘she is nuts talking like this,’ but think about it, re-watch this exact same scene and remove the music, do you think it would be the same? No. It would be totally different.

I hear different things from you.

I hear sounds from different things. Like the movie, August Rush, where a young boy, created music in his head literally from the soundscapes he heard in his everyday life. The rustling of the trees. The beating drip of the water tap. The scrape of the shoes on a path. All melded together to form a musical sound for him. I am like that. I hear the key of the music being played. I also hear sounds around me that speak to me., I hear those sounds. I hear music.

But music talks to us all individually.

It is a personalised conversation.

I don’t know how music affects you, but today, in our service of remembrance Anzac 2023, for me, I felt a reawakening of the conversant dialogue of music and how, in many diverse conditions, music still talks.

And with that thought in mind I will leave you with a thought. What dialogue will you hear tomorrow?

Life is what happens while you are busy making other plans!

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Do you know that it is almost two months since my last blog! Such a gloomy situation! Not the normal period for me as I love writing and it is always such a thrill to share my words with you! I know I attempted to sit down and write my thoughts as the occasion hit me several times, but my tired brain and body said ‘tomorrow’! And of course, tomorrow never came! (I do think there is a song like that). ‘Life’ and its busyness has simply taken over since we returned from our wonderful six weeks over December and January away overseas! So here I am, it is Easter Monday. The long weekend is over, and I am sitting here outside my house, enjoying the fresh air and beautiful sunshine and I am writing. Nine weeks from my last blog to finally share my thoughts with you!

Yes, life has been extremely busy.

As the cliché says, we hit the ground running. Stepping off the plane from the chilly winter chill of minus 38 in Canada to a heat wave of +38 in Australia was an interesting concept… to say the least. I can certainly say the winter chill melted right away as the intensity of the heatwave we endured on our first week back permeated through our skin! What a shock to the bodies human system as we migrated from the much-loved needed warmth of fires to the chill of air conditioners!

And yes, as expected work has consumed me! Even though I tried hard to not let it, it did!

Do you know how funny it is how we are constantly on the go doing things, getting things done. I mean think about it, you go from the beginning of year in the blink of an eye, but where does that time go? We have been home for over two months; this Easter weekend is over, and I think about what has been achieved in this past small– yet considerable period. But where did the time go? When did that time matter?

It feels as though once I get one task accomplished it is expected to fulfill the next. I finish one project or assist one person, sort out a few problems, answer phone calls, read those never-ending medical attributed emails, and respond, design staff and obstetrics hospital rosters, work through the various rosters re payment, training, and duties, attend meetings face to face meetings or online webinars myself, write a small number of submissions,  press save , breathe and the next responsibility begins. Add to all this, many at work and at home business discussions,  entering  calendar events for my  husband for the whole year to ensure we don’t forget anything, engaging with new doctors beginning at our practice, an existing doctor leaving us, changes within our financial business structure of the Medical Practice, becoming a zoom computer widow for two evenings each week due to a course my Dr Husband is convening  for the next month or so and too many other business concerns I am sure I have forgotten to mention!

Do you know that Computers, Emails, SMS, Video Chats, zoom meetings and webinars that are such a huge contribution to society are also a major taker of time to our work life and home life. These little things in life to assist are a blessing and a curse at the same time. They can either make or break your day with their messages and there really is not an in between. Align that concept with the normal hectic schedules consisting of wake up, get ready, go to work, work, eat, come home, walk dogs, wash, clean, and so on, I must truly contemplate about how to find time to simply just stop and think.

Don’t get me wrong. I am not complaining. I sincerely love my role as Practice manager of a busy General Practice but at times, it seems to be a never-ending cycle. After all, think about it, by the time most of us have undertaken the lengthy list of daily tasks, we are simply too exhausted or too tired to sit down and reflect over our day. Some days I go home and honestly, I couldn’t tell you what I had for lunch, not to mention what I accomplished in my busy day! We occupy ourselves with daily activities to the point that we simply climb out of the mounds of papers and activities to complete, to crawl into bed out of pure exhaustion.

In these past nine weeks of ‘work busyness’, I have also been busy and tired emotionally.

The month of February incurred the unhappy knowledge that a young family member had a form of cancer and not sure she would survive as she had been so sick, (thankfully she has). In these same past few weeks, learning that a close friend had a medical condition upset me. Even though this is curable and not an elevated risk, of course it still affected me psychologically! Dealing with other family issues and concerns on both sides of the trees.  Add to that in March, it had been 18 years since my first husband passed away from cancer, it would have been his 67th birthday , the memories of his time with us as a family, the reminiscences of his passing, reading my daughters comments on Facebook missing her dad….feeling this emotion intensely , and even more so this year, because my best friends husband passed away only a few weeks ago and the two males of this friendship were best mates. The four of us did so many things together when we were all alive and well! Supporting my best friend walk through this emotional time while dealing with my own feelings of memories of the past, certainly added to that emotional tiredness and nothing to do with work! And last, but not least, realising that although we talk every day by SMS or by phone or through family weekly video chat, I have only physically seen my daughter once face to face since we had returned, and my son not at all face to face since Christmas! Not a good thought! I miss their hugs! I miss my grandchildren; I miss all of them!

So, yes, when I reread my words above, I can see my life has been extremely busy since we have returned from our much-needed vacation away from life. But in that busyness and more to come, I must remember that sometimes it is the trivial things that happen in the day that make what I do, what I say worthwhile! Because some of those unimportant things that happen throughout my day can make a significant impact and only take a small amount of time. To stop and with another cliche…to smell the roses and not only smell them but to enjoy their scent! 

Such as when I help a friend or family member work out a problem or are there just to let them vent. Or when I assist a colleague or work friend to sort something out. Or to only be a sounding board to chew over the problem and assist with a solution. Sometimes the problem is not solved but I know I have given them time to talk to me about it.

Like when I smile and wave at all the familiar faces, I see throughout the day both at work and at home. Smiling as I walk up the hallway to those familiar faces I see as part of my work life, knowing that they like to see me and to chat with them in a friendly fashion. Or to just give a simple smile, a small hello, acknowledging their presence. Or to simply reminisce with a family member or friend or quite often, laughing at a joke or cartoon with a colleague/staff friend at work, is one of those moments to remember more than the busy daily routine of “everything else “I do.

Like at the end of my busy day, breathing in that fresh air as I accompany our two golden retrievers on their walks, or patting their heads as they slide their big furry nose onto my keyboard stopping me from writing. Or sitting and playing my grand piano, singing occasionally when the feeling hits me. Of knowing that wonderful feeling of sometimes snuggling up to my husband on the couch watching mindless TV at the end of our busy days (as we both nod off to sleep) to eventually retire to bed to wake up to a brand-new day full of whatever happens in my busyness!

To be Thankful for my busyness and my life! That I am more than capable, physically, mentally and emotionally of being busy!

Yes, I know this sounds so philosophical, but because my time is cluttered with work, activities and social networking crammed into every waking moment, it is important to know in that busyness, a small amount of time somewhere is also needed to enjoy the smaller important aspects and moments within my life.  To know, I can enjoy life and be happy too when I am extremely busy!

So, in the same spirit of the same philosophical guise, I guess the only way to end this blog is to ask you if your tomorrow never comes… what do you want to be remembered by?

Your work role? Your busyness and productivity? Your Quality time given to things?

Your family? Your sharing time, 

Your positivity? 

Your smiles, your laughter, your tears, your compassion?

Your love of life?

What do I want to be remembered by?

I hope I am remembered for all those things and so much more!

But until ‘that tomorrow comes’  I will now return to the hustle, bustle of my life, and say to you 

Talk  soon…hopefully not too long between blogs this time!”

Well. I can only try!!!

 

Excursion into an icebox!

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IMG_9879“Why are you going to Yellowknife in Winter?”

That has been the recurring question asked by numerous people not only before we left Australia, but definitely by the many locals we have met since arriving here in Canada. Initially, I really did not know why either! In fact, truthfully, it was the last thing I wanted to do. I didn’t even know why it was on our itinerary! The looks those Canadians gave us each time we informed them of our travel plans was for me personally, an alarm bell and quite a concern. Combining that with my own research of the expected cold temperatures, what little was available to see and do, and I too didn’t know why we were heading this far north! Why were we going to Yellowknife in Winter?

But let me start at the beginning!

For the last part of our trip, initially our travel agent had us heading to Inuvik, a town, located 200km North of the Arctic Circle and the third largest community in Canada’s Northwest Territories. It is a two-hour flight north of Yellowknife. She promoted the various snow activities and cultural aspects available but many of these, such as dogsledding, we had already experienced six years ago whilst in Finland. Plus, it added four figures to our travel budget, so we politely declined but kept Yellowknife as an alternative destination in the itinerary. However, even as a substitute, while we were still in Australia, I researched the extreme minus temperatures Yellowknife regularly endured during winter. The more I watched on The Weather Channel,  the more hesitant I became about my own survival under what I was seeing as extreme cold conditions when in Yellowknife!

On arrival in Yellowknife, I was immediately uncertain. I had already experienced the Cold Of Canada which, yes, was chilly but doable. However, this ‘cold’ was so distinct from any other cold I had experienced so far in my life Stepping out onto an open ramp from the small plane we had flown in from Calgary, I was instantly utterly freezing! I had on my layers of winter clothes, my snow parka, and my winter boots, but that initial blast of extremely cold air shocked me immensely. We had to wait outside the plane to pick up a bag that had been checked on last minute due to lack of space in the overhead bulkheads. Marc kept insisting I just go inside the terminal. I stubbornly stayed thinking that that is where I should be, making sure I was not separated from Marc. He kept insisting I just go in – he eventually won but not before I had already lost my core temperature. If any of you have ever been in a really cold environment, you would know that once you lose your core temperature, it is VERY hard to get your temperature back up! You are not even shivering since your metabolism is starting to shut down.  Once Marc caught up with me in the terminal, he forced me to put on every additional layer of clothing I had in my carry-on baggage.

We then went to the rental car counter and stood there enduring blasts of cold air from the adjacent terminal exit door every time someone went out. The rental car attendant was very pleasant and once the paperwork was done, remotely started our car from over 50m away, ( as all the cars do in Yellowknife) helped drag our bags through the snow and then load them into the car. No maps and the GPS on my phone did not work, but Marc approached a shuttle bus driver and arranged to follow him to our hotel along roads paved with frozen compacted snow. The car’s heater was on full, but you wouldn’t have known it.

Our hotel being warm and inviting, embraced me in its welcoming arms, but not for long! A walk was suggested to survey the town and ‘get the layout’ (as we normally do), but at minus 27 degrees, even with more layers added underneath our own (what we thought would be) appropriate clothing I just could not do it! I was freezing. This walk was cut very short. My fingers were frozen. My toes were icy. The severe cold was going straight through my current snow pants and my knees were aching from this temperature. I was almost in tears. So, stepping back into the warmth of our hire car, back to the heat of the hotel we went.

The next morning dawned sunny and beautiful. Staring from our hotel window, the image looked so surreal! Such a beautiful place! The night before we had sent various emails out trying to rent proper attire for the weather, but no answers returned except, “if you are on one of our tours, we could rent you clothing”. But we did not wish to do tours, we just wanted to get warm! Another excursion downtown to see what appropriate clothing we could rent.

Do you know that intense cold air hurts. Real sub-zero cold is vicious, nasty, and mean. It is not funny at all. Being where we were today in minus 28 degrees conditions and with a wind chill of minus 40 was not compatible with the normal operating parameters of my body. We simply HAD to access the right attire. Sitting in the car, driving around trying to find rental attire, I began to think I simply could not do this. In fact, I truly DID NOT WANT to do this at all. I did not want to go anywhere at all. I just wanted to go back to the hotel room, stay in the confines of four warm walls to recover my body heat once more. I started to cry. What was more upsetting, as I was crying, was the concern this was not the way I wished the last few days of our great holiday to be. I did not want to have memories of intense cold and tears and physically not wanting to be here in Yellowknife. Preferably I wished  to end our break away on a high, to have wonderful memories to return and talk about with others. But this was not happening!

It is amazing how so many individual Canadians we have encountered have been so helpful! Not having received any online help from any advertised tour or rental companies, we randomly ventured into a local art gallery and emporium to ask whether he knew where we could rent some gear. And, without hesitation, he rang a friend (who just happened to be away in Edmonton 1450kms away and therefore unable to personally help), but who ‘knew’ another local, who in turn suggested another local, ‘Miko’, who just happened to be working that morning in the Chinese restaurant next door in the same building as the art gallery we were in!  From that ‘round about’ ‘think-tank’ of assistance, we ended up being warmly decked out with Canadian Goose down jackets, heavy insulated boots, thick snow pants, and heavy gloves, all for the price of $35.00 per day each! Well under any prices the tour companies were charging their customers. And by that afternoon, off we went for another outdoor survival challenge!

The transformation in my thoughts from, ‘I cannot do this’, to, ‘I can’, was profound. We were now able to walk around the Old Town of Yellowknife. We were now able to look at this most exquisite pristine scenery of white. We were now able to enjoy Yellowknife. It was now achievable. It was now realistic. Importantly, I was doing it!

‘Walking’ is a loose term to use when decked out in this extreme cold attire. Firstly, you have to ensure that all underlayers are tucked in before the snow pants go on. These snow pants are all lined and heavy, but not tightly fitted as they need to be loose enough to go over all your other layers and still fit over your boots. Slide the pants on, pull them up … breathe in to do them up! Easy!

Then the boots. I abandoned what I thought were warm dense snow boots to don the heaviest boots I have ever walked in. They look like gumboots but are thicker, lined and there is so much boot sole between your foot and the ground. It is like you are walking on the first floor of the building instead of the ground floor! Two pairs of socks inside the boot and you are set.

Then the scarf! The freezing temperatures meant that any exposed skin could become frostbitten within minutes, so ALL skin has to be covered. I had to wrap my face up in my scarf like a mummy leaving just my eyes showing. My broad red alpaca scarf that I bought in Montreal for the cold there, served this purpose beautifully (of course it is red!). I learnt to wrap the scarf around my face twice. This was the item that caught all the moisture in my breath and turned my breath (within minutes of going outside) into ice crystals!

Then you place the jacket on! This red jacket is the Canadian Goose brand ( yes, red again) and it is filled with goose down, It is by far, the heaviest jacket I have ever worn! I was sure this coat weighed as much as me, and I felt like I was now wearing my own weight. It had a large fur lined heavy hood that hid and shielded your face down a tunnel and blinkering any peripheral vision. But it assisted with keeping the wind from striking your face directly …  well, most of the time!

Then, the hand coverings. Your put on your inner thermal gloves first and make sure the cuffs are under your jackets sleeves. This is the inner layer that will give you a few minutes of useful finger function if you have to take your outer gloves/mittens off for any reason such as to take a photo or open your purse. Then the outer gloves/mittens. They are Soooo bulky that you feel your hands have turned into flippers. You feel all you can do with your hands is to clap them together and bark like a seal.

Everything secured, zippers fastened up as far as they can go. Flaps Velcro ’ed over seams and zippers to stop any drafts of cold air.

Then off you ‘walk’!

Walking around is very hard, especially when you are not used to all the heavy gear that you have to wear to stay warm from the extreme elements of nature. I learnt this the hard way, because what did we do when we got all the gear….we walked! Our first day we walked 7.80 kms, our second day here we walked 8.0 kms and today we walked approximately the same … 8.25 kms. It does not sound very far compared to our ‘normal’ 20+km daily ‘walks’! our steps per day usually went to between 20000 and 26000. Now we are doing half the steps but covering less than half the distance! (i.e., exceedingly small steps!)  Walking in Yellowknife, in all this weather centred gear, is more like plodding, trudging, slogging and is plain hard work!

You lift one foot up and then the other…one foot up, the other foot down. Next step up, and so on. Think of it as like walking where each footstep is stuck in glue! I admit I did become used to walking in this fashion, except Marc’s speed was much faster than mine and he had to constantly turn his whole body to see where I was. Way back there! Oh, didn’t I mention that inside all that hair and face covering, your peripheral vision is minimal. You really do have to turn your whole body to see anything! Sometimes, all you can see is that foot, that is stuck in glue, that you are trying to move.

As you walk, your eyelashes ice up, within minutes of walking. Your hair ices up. If you have even the tiniest of loose curls around your face, icicles will form on your now extremely stiff and dry straw-like hair, and that frozen hair encased in ice will then become frozen to your face. Like stalagmites they grow and become glued from your hood to your scarf. A word of warning, (as I found out) do not try to wipe them off with your mitten or you are in a world of pain. I made that mistake of seeing those icicles in front of me, wiping them off from my face and it stung like anything since some skin came with it. Those cute little icicles are actually stuck on tight to your face!

You must keep your gloves on because if they are off for any brief period of time, your fingers start to freeze! You lose sensation and, when you resume wearing your mittens, the subsequent burning pain that has to be endured as the feeling comes back in your fingers is quite painful! Taking photos on your iPhone had to be completed extremely quickly!

But overall, you are warm! Your body is snug, toasty, and comfortable as you walk around viewing the world. That was the best part of all ! You are more than happy to be wearing all this gear! Even better, all speculative thoughts of me being left alone in the hotel room for 4 days was submerged! I got out. I walked!

The hardest part of being in this wonderfully warm attire was the time it took to get it all on! You needed to take an extra half hour to dress yourself before your expected departure from your dwelling! Then think about when that call of nature struck … as it did many times with the cold affecting my bladder frequently …  how difficult re: all the layers being lifted, and how long it took to do your wee! And … something else to think about … have you ever tried to get into or out of the front seat of the car dressed like this? Like heaving a bag of wheat into the front seat.

Yellowknife is genuinely a beautiful city – not the architecture since it is basically a provincial administrative centre and does not aspire to be more than that. There are the office buildings, shopping squares and the hotels of a normal functioning city structure. It is the landscape that makes it beautiful. It is pristine, white, clean, and scenic. The white snow stays white because it is too cold for it melt; there is no rain to fall and create slush. What precipitation falls, drops as ice crystals and snow, continuing to endorse that virgin white. On real freezing days, the air sparkles with ice crystals as any moisture in the air instantly crystalises. Impossible to film but real. As you look towards the sun, the suspended ice crystals in the air refract the light creating a subtle rainbow around the sun. There are large sections of white frozen lakes in the middle of the city. The roads are white. The parks with their green and white-dusted pine trees remain fixed in their ‘Christmas trees’ poses, like the snow has been painted on, in the constant sub-zero temperatures. The imagery presented by this white city, of this winter wonderland was like nothing I had ever seen before! It was truly exceptionally beautiful! Spectacular! Amazing!  Stunning! You would genuinely believe that Santa Claus could take residence here if he was not already established at the North pole!

Marc enjoyed snowmobiling! He decided that he wanted to do a new activity not tried before. He wanted me to join him. (He also wanted me to do snowshoe walking and riding a fat tyre bike.) Did you hear me laugh? I am sure you would have heard it when standing there in my gear, amongst this winter iceland, I laughed at his suggestions. I was finding it hard to lift a foot when I walked, imagine trying to ride a bike? Or even balance on a bike? Lyndell attempting to carry out those activities in temperatures of minus 32 degrees with a wind chill of minus 44, I do not think so!!  That was not my kind of fun! No matter how warm I was feeling. Doing physical events in that kind of weather is for the mad. But yes, my ‘mad’ husband went out, dressed in the full winter attire, ready to perch upon on a motor bike on skis ‘to have fun’! I let him have that kind of fun all to himself!

Not once, but twice! Unfortunately, although he wanted to share the experience of the snow-mobiling with me … the weaving along paths through trees before dropping out onto frozen lakes then to race across wide open frozen expanses. He tried to use his Go-Pro to film his experiences with me. But within seconds the Go-Pro froze, and the batteries died so no images did he bring back other than in his memory. He tried to share these with me but not sufficiently to convince me to try it myself – even with the promise of heated handlebars.

What was amazing was the Ice Road.

These are winter roads built across the frozen lakes connecting villages otherwise difficult to access by road if at all. We had walked on a frozen sea many years ago in Finland, but this was driving a heavy four-wheel drive vehicle across a frozen lake! Such a beautiful scene of white snow and ice but to the senses scary! Of course, my initial thoughts were of ‘Sinking Titanic here we come’ but I was totally wrong! What an awesome experience! My son would have truly loved the experience! I could see him performing 360 degrees and drifts on the ice in his own four-wheel vehicle with probably a few more things thrown in!  (No, I much preferred, and insisted, Marc to not do that even though he did suggest it!) Even more incredible was finding areas of exposed ice on the road. We could stop and peer into dark depths of the ice to see layers and layers and layers of frozen water – assorted colours, vertical cracks, encased bubbles and other impurities and there we were, driving on them.

Even more extraordinary was lying on that ice!  You ask me, why did we lie on them? Simply because we could! Tell me, what else do you do on an ice road? Lying there on the ice, your full body lying down on an enormous ice cube the size of a lake, ice with so many layers and such depth of levels. That was a humbling occurrence. It was wonderful. It was truly indefinable!  It was also so so so cold!!!!!

Contrary to some Canadians inquiries, we did not come to Yellowknife to see the northern lights. We had already seen them in Finland and were not concerned whether we saw them again or not. Definitely we were not prepared to book an aurora tour just on the chance of seeing the lights. But the local tourist information service did provide us with a map of where we could drive out of town to safely view the lights. Still, this would mean a drive-in sub-zero temperature; at night- or incredibly early in the am, in temperatures that if you turned off the car for too long it would not re-start, and no guarantee that you would see the lights. But what a bonus seeing this natural phenomenon was to our stay here! Marc, late one night, watching the Aurora zone on the computer noted that there would be a good chance of seeing an aurora within 45 minutes, so we were off.  Outside into the car to drive the 20minutes to a designated area Marc had planned a few hours before (just in case we went). (Of course, we had to put all those layers on again!)

We were not disappointed.

Officially, the northern lights are an atmospheric phenomenon in which undulating waves of green, purple, and pink lights dance across the sky. They occur when waves of energized particles from the sun called solar wind bombard our atmosphere. During the Viking period, people thought that the Northern Lights were images of young women who were dead. Others believed that the northern lights were signs of huge fires in the north. Others thought that it was God lighting up the cold, dark parts of the world. Whatever the perception is, to the human eye, what a glorious sight!

At Yellowknife, in those extreme frigid conditions, we were fortunate to observe those vast green bands of light hover in the sky as spectacular soft, wave-like emerald light waves appearing as if tantalisingly they were within reach above us! They were like velvet drapes that floated back to earth. The dark night was like a fairy tale as green to red magic lights flickered above us, dancing their way across the sky.  What a breathtaking vision as this truly spectacular session of nature was presented to us. I was mesmerised. I felt so small as part of this awesome creation displayed above me. I must admit, it was a very emotional time for me, watching these lights move and dance unpredictably; sometimes barely perceptible, then suddenly growing thick and vivid. Such a bonus to our stay in Yellowknife!

I commenced this blog with my hesitation about staying in Yellowknife. About staying in one of the coldest places I have ever been! I was unsure, I was a little scared and being honest, it was the last thing I really wanted to do. I didn’t want to go! But being there in this cold city, so far north above the Artic Circle in the middle of the northern western territories of Canada, I can honestly say, this place was the highlight of my travels here in Canada. I do now have wonderful memories to return and talk about with others!  No, not for the northern lights, they were simply a bonus, but for the overall understanding of this place, of the appreciation of the cold, of the awareness and knowledge of how you must survive, of the entire event itself.

Would I do it again?

Definitely not.

A firm No!

But I truly would recommend it as something you should try once in your life!

(By the way, the day we left, the temperature was going to minus 37 with a wind child of minus 51! Oh, so glad we left when we did!)

“There’s snow business like snow business”

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IMG_9174Today, it is snowing quite heavily.

In my past journals related to this holiday, I have mentioned at times about how cold I have been. Yes, there were a few specific days where I could not get warm, but overall, the weather, even at its coldest (so far) has been quite manageable. Friends have indicated that when I return to Australia in (10 days’ time), I will need a week to thaw. But no, I must say, that although the photos sent to Facebook and to sites show us looking ‘freezing and bitter cold’, it has not been like that. It is amazing how you do adapt to the weather conditions. You also adjust mentally knowing, at home it is summer and temperatures of high 20’s plus, whereas here, where we have travelled, it is generally sub-zero. But with the right clothing, attire and outer gear and a positive attitude, (being with Marc, yes) you can achieve anything. And we have!

It is no secret that winter anywhere in the world, can be challenging, especially when it is forecasted to be particularly cold and bitter. Even more so when the winter we have experienced is such a contrast to the one we normally undergo at home in our semi tropical playground. When days become shorter and darker, it is common for a drop in temperature which can result in decreased motivation to get outdoors and maintain a regular routine. When I see so few people walking on the streets, I do wonder how people, in these winter conditions keep fit, when they are indoors for up to half of the year.

I do agree the cold can definitely be difficult! Life looks much different during the colder months, particularly when it snows!

But snowfall is truly a pretty sight, the world is still, no movement, even the air stays still. When the towns we have seen adorn their buildings, their homes, and their trees with Christmas lights and leave them on well into the end of January. Add to the lights and decorations highlights of freshly fallen snow and it turns the streetscapes into legitimate winter wonderlands.

When snow flurries begin to fall and swirl around people’s legs like house cats; when you look up and become captivated by the Earth’s ability to turn water into these icy sprinkles; when your husband reaches into the snow to make a snowball from these flurries to throw at you; when you see these snowflakes fall, and float down in a graceful path that would make the most professional ballerinas look clumsy. It is almost a euphoric moment, and the child inside me wakes up and there is that impulsive habit to scream, “Look it is snowing!”

My first memory of snow falling was many years ago on a trip to Dinner Plain, Victoria Australia, when I experienced that first snowflake on my head. The naive person inside of me, back then, never having experienced fresh snow falling before, made my husband laugh with my comment, “Look Its snowing … oh, it is so wet!” I do think I made him laugh! Even so, depending on the situation, snowfall incites my inner child to dream and play once more. It is a such a beautiful sight!

Today, here at St John’s, it is snowing quite profoundly.

St. John’s is the oldest British Settlement in Canada. Newfoundland had been unofficially discovered by Lief Erikson around the 1001 and the Norsemen had settlements on the North and West parts of the island until the end of the 13th century. But in typical European History, the ‘discovery’ in 1497 of Newfoundland is ascribed to John Cabot (whose real name was Giovanni Cabotto, an Italian explorer commissioned by England’s King Henry VII to explore North America).

Previously we have tramped around this city in snow and wintry conditions and explored the historic parts of this town. With the weather today predicting up to 35 centimetres of snow to fall and armed with the news of deteriorating conditions, we decided to make the trek out early today to the museum called “The Rooms”. According to our research, this is Newfoundland and Labrador’s largest public cultural space where history, heritage and artistic expression come together. It is the largest public cultural space where the province’s most extensive collection of artifacts, art and historical records come together to create meaningful and memorable visitor experiences that share who we are and how we came to be.  We love history and culture, particularly of a place that is so old, so decided to take the plunge and walk up the hill (and I mean up) amidst the falling snow and the snow-covered ground to visit and take part of this cultural heritage.

Walking through snow can be tough! Particularly fresh snow. Sometimes it crunches beneath your feet, other times it squeaks. Sometimes you slip and slide, sometimes you sink heavily into the unknown world. The wind at times can be cold that it ‘burns’ your face and at others, nothing but cool air. Your hands are covered in thick gloves. Your nose sniffles and drips from the cold and all you have to dab away the moisture are, you’ve got it, the back of your gloves. Your feet are encased in heavy boots. You shuffle down the street using your best penguin steps when it is slippery. It is a bright white silence but as you walk through it, you feel winter’s cold embrace. But always, the destination is waiting for you to regain any warmth you may have lost, although many times, you are already warm from your effort of moving in snow conditions. It is achievable. You adjust. I did!

On arrival to our expected ‘warm’ welcome of open Museum doors, what a disappointment to find that they were closed. We had even checked their website to ensure that winter hours were still active, and at the same time rung the museum and their answering machine confirming they were indeed open. But they were not! Standing at the entrance, snow dropping off our jackets and boots, espying a security button to push, we inquired (of a living person), that we were here, and although their information sites indicated it was supposed to be, it was not open. His reply over the intercom…. “It had been placed in Facebook that it was closed today due to the weather.

Did we look at Facebook? No, we did not look at Facebook. We both believed that the website and phone message would be enough! Obviously not. We were wrong.

Disappointment in hand, we turned around and trudged back through the snow to the warmth of our hotel room, taking more photos of this winter landscape and the colourful architecture of the town now looking more entrancing with the colours of Jellybean Row so much more dramatic with the contrasting falling snow. A different backdrop from what we saw yesterday. What did we do instead? We simply adapted to the circumstances of the day and enjoyed the day, the subsequent hot chocolate (again), watching movies on TV and playing cards.

I guess you could call it “a chill out” day!

While playing cards, Marc had a premonition he should move our hire care. It was in the carpark outside the hotel near the front. Marc moved the car back a half a metre and came back in. Just after he did, a big dump of snow fell off the hotel’s roof and landed with a thud just where the bonnet of the hire car had been. That was an insurance claim we won’t have to worry about.

See we too can adapt to unexpected or different conditions!

Snow falling is a reminder that no matter how old you become and how much you have seen, things can still be fresh, they can still be new if you were willing to believe that what you do still matters.

By the way, I did leave a message on the museum’s Facebook regarding their lack of update information!

I wonder if I will get a reply.

“We Come From Away”

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Welcome to the rock if you’ve come from far away,unnamed

You’ll probably understand about half of what we say,

Welcome to our island with its inlets and its bays
You could keep on heading east but there’s an ocean in the way
They say no man’s an island, but an island makes a man especially when one comes from Newfoundland”      

(“Come From Away” lyrics)

Gander.

How do I describe this town?

How do I describe my own emotion of being in this town?

I truly cannot!

Gander made its way into my heart when I first saw the musical, ‘Come from Away”, on Apple TV. The show was chosen by accident purely because Marc and I wanted something ‘light’ to view after work. Seeing this musical advertised on Pay TV, as I am an avid musical fan this was my choice for that night!

Wow what a choice!

Before this show, I had never even heard of Gander! I did not even know the story of what had essentially happened when this town in central Newfoundland Canada was abruptly and without warning dragged into the New York City tragedy of 9/11. The first time I saw this show, at the end I was so emotional, and I could not speak. I was in tears. We both were. It filled me with so much emotion at how this township of 9000 people rallied together to assist over seven thousand strangers and for nothing. They did it just because they did! I have now watched this show so many times including a live stage version in Melbourne. Each time, without fail, I am filled with emotion at what these people did for so many outsiders!

And we are here!

What did we do?

Of course, we had to see all the places mentioned in the Musical. But first and foremost, we visited the North American Aviation Museum which told the story of how Gander International airport evolved. It was chosen because with the expansion of aviation after the first world war, people wanted to fly between North America and Europe. None of the planes at that time could do that because of the need to refuel, so a large international airport was needed to allow the planes to refuel enroute. The spot chosen was an abandoned timber town, in the middle of Newfoundland. Gander grew from there and was the largest airport in North America for some time. For several decades it hosted planes and dignitaries from all over the world as well as being of major military strategic value during WWII. The airport became superfluous once jet aircraft could fly across the Atlantic without the need to refuel. But that still left quite a large international airport in the middle of Newfoundland that is only used now for half a dozen domestic flights each day.

The museum informed us of the history of the airport and the growth of air transport in Newfoundland but the significant part of the museum for me was the portion dedicated to the 9/11 tragedy. To see images of the Gander airport’s runways, taxi areas and aprons with the 38 planes parked; to view the flight progress board where the 38 planes’ flight progress strips had been stacked in their ‘parking’ bays around the airport; to see the part of the chunk of the steel from the twin World Trade Centre towers (Gander was the only place outside America to receive a piece of the world trade centre); to read the ‘Thank You’ letters from individuals who were part of those strangers welcomed by the town of Gander – to read only a small fragment of those 1000’s of letters received and feel their words of appreciation, of recognition; to see faces in the photos at the ten-year anniversary (when the musical was formed) was truly absolutely moving. All that emotion resurfaced.

Then it was off to see the airport itself! It was so long. Both of us were amazed at how extensive the airport was and we could understand why Gander had been chosen to receive so many of the large jets that had to be grounded enroute to the USA that day. A smaller airport would not have been able to handle these giant planes carrying all those passengers.

Contemplation similarly on how many hours those international 7000 passengers must have been on their planes before being allowed off, before then being loaded onto school buses (up until that afternoon the school bus drivers had been on strike but broke the strike to help the ‘plane people’) to be taken to some other unknown destination. It was dark. They could see nothing and no-one. The surrounding empty countryside gave no clues as to where they were going. Some of the journeys were long as some passengers were sent to outlying areas of Gambo, Appleton and Lewisporte. Being there at the airport, I could sense the fear and trepidation of those international travellers who had landed in the middle of nowhere, not knowing where they were, their terror, their anxiety of why this was happening and nobody could inform them of anything, not until they reached their accommodation.

Continuing our self-directed ‘Come From Away’ tour of Gander, of course we had to get a hot chocolate and a muffin at ‘Tim Hortons’. This venue is in similar style to MacDonalds but with a totally different feel. Nothing like the average grab and go MacDonald’s at all. Tim Hortons felt warm and friendly and felt like the place where the locals met and gathered, to catch up with friends, to chat and gossip – just like how it was portrayed in the musical. We looked at ‘Shoppers’ across the road, the business who had donated much of their stock without payment to the ‘plane people’ (yes, took a photograph). Visited the Public Library that had been used as a place of quiet solitude for those ‘plane people’ that needed the space. Saw ‘Rogers TV station’ which is actually a very small television station in basically a tin shed. All these places created even more sentiment for me! Importantly, we saw the memorial park dedicated to aviation accidents and to Sergent Gander an extremely large dog but that is totally another story of local selflessness.

To finish the self-made ‘Come from Away Tour’, we went to ‘The Legion’, the place where some of the ‘plane people’ not only slept but, due to boredom and anxiety build-up, the town and many of the ‘plane people’ gathered to have some fun such as ‘becoming an honorary Newfoundlander’. This meant they had to drink screech (a rough Jamaican type rum) and kiss the cod.

The Royal Canadian Legion is Canada’s largest veteran support and community service organisation, providing support and assistance to those in need while at the same time providing a place to gather for fun and celebration. A little like our RSL clubs at home. Ganders Legion today is still the same building as it was in 2001 and is a small building with a bar and a hall. Only half a dozen gentleman was in the bar area when we visited, mostly playing cribbage. After discovering we were from Australia, they inquired, “Why Newfoundland?” (More. “Why in Winter!?”) Being sociable we bought a drink. To answer your question I can see forming, NO, there was no cod to kiss or screech to drink. I preferred my glass of red wine, and if there were one there, I definitely would not kiss a cod! I would have to kiss Marc instead!

After chatting with the locals for a while, I left Marc with the men and wandered around the hall, visualising the plane people here, being provided with entertainment to assist in alleviating their anxiety and boredom levels. And here, in this old-fashioned community hall, was a large, framed poster with “Come From Away” on it, signed by all the members of the musical cast. (The Canadian government commissioned the musical to be produced and many a person was interviewed at the 10th anniversary reunion of 9/11 in Gander to bring the show alive. The musical was first performed in Gander in 2013.) Armed with my research of the various live characters and their individual stories presented through the musical, even more significant to me, was the plaque by Hannah O’Reilly, a ‘plane person’ who had lost her son in the New York tragedy. While she was stuck as a guest in Gander, she did not know he had died and was constantly trying to find out. She presented this plaque as a commemoration to the people of Gander for the welcome she had received amidst all her own personal tragedy and loss! For me, Hannah is a (true prominent) person and seeing this living emblem of that memory/story bought more tears to my eyes. What a wonderful feeling to be there, to see all this in person and not just through the media, the stage, or the computer! What an emotional day!

So, should you go to Gander if you visited Newfoundland?

Gander is nothing special. It is in the middle of an island. In the middle of a rock at the edge of an ocean.

You are here, at the start of a moment, on the edge of the world, Where the river meets the sea.

Here, at the edge of the Atlantic, on an island in between there and here”.

Not all tourists visit Gander because of the musical, but I imagine that it would have an impact on those that do. It was also thought-provoking that the town’s signage, as part of their name, always displayed the words “Come From Away – Our Town Welcomed the World”.

I would envisage the town remains immensely proud of what they did!

“You are somewhere, in the middle of nowhere, In the middle of who knows where,

In the middle of clear blue air, where you found your heart, but left a part of you behind!”

 (“Come From Away” lyrics)

Oh yes, I was so honoured to be there!

Yes, I left a part of my heart behind too!

“An Artic Blast!”

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unnamedSuch a different day today! I can actually see the sun trying to peak out beyond the clouds in a small section of blue sky. We have not seen much blue sky in our travels and the sun rays are not much, but at least it is something! The sunshine is a bit bright! Not used to it! But such a contrast to yesterday! Yesterday was a miserable day – both weather and driving conditions.

I was so cold! In fact, despite having had travelled to many places within Canada in our 23 days with sub-zero temperatures, yesterday was one of the coldest days for me. Now, I know that we chose to travel in Winter, and we certainly love the contrast of that to home and we have endured snow and more snow in previous locations, but those cold experiences were of a ‘dry cold’, a ‘doable cold’, even when the wind blew! These past two days however, on the island of Newfoundland, have been of a different kind of cold – a wet moist one – and when the wind blew, it was extremely bitter!

Even the locals spoke of the difference.  We met a couple from Labrador who have moved to Newfoundland. Back in Labrador they were used to temperatures down to minus 40 and claimed they would be quite comfortable just with their big coats and boots on. However, on moving to Newfoundland, they can feel the ‘wet cold’ affecting their bones even though the temperatures are only in the single digit minus range. Grey days beget grey moods. Wet cold begets miserable Lyndell because my body was one iceberg with two icicles attached as hands. I WAS THAT COLD!

Our last night in the Ski resort at Steady Brook (where Marc hadn’t been able to ski due to the weather being too inhospitable) was accented by the sounds of howling winds and freezing rain lashing our building. We had briefly experienced this on our first day here and this had severely limited our time outside that day. For the uninitiated (like I was), ‘Freezing Rain’ is rain falling in subzero temperatures. It freezes into fine ice crystals that feel like you are in a wind tunnel being sandblasted with sugar crystals. It really stings. And instead of ‘normal snow’, the ground appears covered in a carpet of sparkling sugar granules. Twigs and branches of trees, wires, poles, in fact any cold surface ends up encased in a sleeve of ice with trailing ice stalactites that indicated the direction the wind had been blowing during that freezing rain. These can even tinkle in the wind like wind chimes when they are not shorting out power lines. Of course, the roads also become encased in clear slick ice – even the locals try to avoid driving when there has been freezing rain. It was certainly not enjoyable being attacked by this freezing rain – but as always something new! Another challenge!

“Welcome to the wildest weather that you ever heard of! Where everyone is nice but it’s never nice above” (Come from Away)

We left the warmth and safety of our lodge and set off to drive to Gros Morne National Park since this is a ‘must see’ part of Newfoundland. However, I must admit, not before we shared a little prayer requesting guardian angel assistance on the potentially icy roads. The way forward did not look pleasant, or safe … and to be honest I was a little scared, but my prayers must have been answered since the roads were still somewhat icy, but ‘okay’ – at least on a Newfoundland scale of ‘safe’.

We arrived in Woody Point, a summertime waterside resort. It was cold, rainy, and very grey. Getting out of the car and finding the ground slick with ice, having the wind blow freezing rain into your face and into any gap in your clothing, where all local businesses doors and windows were boarded up for the winter … what were we doing here? Marc informed me that – “there were some walking trails here”. Really? He wanted me to walk where? All I could think was, what was Soooo special here that warranted us travelling 40kms out of our way in these conditions? Our Australian travel agent had strongly tried to dissuade us, from including in our itinerary of travel to Newfoundland in winter. Right then, I was beginning to think we should have listened to our travel agent who had informed us that, “No one goes to Newfoundland in January”. For the first time in this holiday, I felt I had had enough, and I wanted to go home. I was so cold. But we were here!

A blessing for me, we were able to get into our accommodation early and it was gorgeous inside. Most importantly, it was dry and had at least a modicum of warmth. Ironically, it was called the ‘seaside suites. (I think it should have been called the Snowside Suites as suggested by a friend). I was more than happy to stay put. I was slowly starting to thaw, but Marc insisted that we go out again and ‘at least visit the local national park Discovery Centre which according to his research, was “definitely” open.’ Grimacing and inwardly groaning, once again the many ‘outside’ layers were placed on and off we drove to the Discovery Centre. Imagine my thoughts when we arrived, walked through the snow to the front door of the centre, and found it locked. Aaaargh! It just added to my feeling of seriously packing up and going home to Australia as more unpleasant thoughts slid into my head.

Marc being Marc, not deterred, saw a park worker clearing snow from a vehicle down behind the centre. He went down and enquired, “Is the Discovery Centre closed for the winter?” The answer was, “Yes, but hold on a minute and I’ll let you in. Can’t have you come all this way and not let you have a look around!” Of course, this was all said in the cheery Newfoundland-laced dialect, a mixture of Canadian and Irish!

“Welcome to the rock if you come from away, you’ll probably understand about a half of what we say” (Come from Away)

And this is exactly what he did. Let us in, turned the lights on, commenced showing us around and then asked, “Would we like to see a short information movie?” We said, “Yes”, and off he went. He admitted he was a maintenance worker, and he did end up needing a little of our assistance to get the movie going. An informative geological aspect of Teutonic plates formations of this area and we could see clearly now understand why Newfoundland is called ‘The Rock’.

The point to this last paragraph was he could have easily said, “No, we are closed. Come back in Spring.” Instead, without hesitation he went out of his way to make our visit special and put NO limitations on how long we stayed. It was ‘us’ who took our leave early with many gestures of gratitude saying, “Thank you very much Bruce”, all while he was still shoving complimentary maps and brochures into our hands. Cold Lyndell had now started to warm up – not so much from just being inside the building but from the human warmth experienced!

We had already experienced the ‘warmth’ of the Newfoundlanders. We had stopped briefly at a fishing village on the Humber River, Frenchman’s Cove, and only taken a few steps from our car when a local man hailed us, chatted, and even offered us into his house for lunch (we politely declined out of courtesy) – all in a broad Newfoundland accent. We have had similar experiences of good will from other Newfoundlanders we had encountered. Two strangers from St Johns (NL), a couple we had met on our earlier trans-Canadian train journey, had insisted on us taking their contact details, “in case we have any problems during our visit to the island”.

So, to end this blog, enduring the cold freezing rain had been our choice and although Newfoundland weather in winter may make it not anyone’s first choice in Canadian destinations, it does make Newfoundland one of those parts of Canada you should visit since we have found the warmth and gregarious attitudes of the local populace incredibly special. The friendliness of the locals has been ‘heart-warming’ even though at times you have needed subtitles to understand their words.

You ask…how did my day end up? Did I get over ‘the cold’.?

Most certainly!

There is nothing like a deep HOT bath to soak in and to return circulation to every part of the iceberg that was my body!

Warmed to the Core!